Cheap Divorce

You know how everyone says getting a divorce is so expensive and it's cheaper to stay married? Well after some research I found a way to get divorce for little to nothing. Every divorce is different and I do recommend you talk to either a county clerk, a lawyer, or a paralegal. But before you agree to file with a lawyer check your local courthouse for options. Here in Louisiana I was able to get all the papers at the law library. I filed a NON- Contested divorce with joint custody.I already filed for child support through the state of Louisiana so that made this kind of divorce easier to file. I paid $3.00 and followed the steps provided with the papers. It didn't cost me anything to file it and the clerk that filed the papers was very helpful in pointing me in the right directions when I had a question she wasn't able to answer. After I got the papers signed by my ex-husband and getting it notarized ($10.00) before I took it to the court to be finalized the total for filing for my divorce was $13.00.

So if you do your research it is possible to do your divorce for less then you think.

New Year

So this in the beginning of a very new year and I'm sure everyone has already decided upon a new resolution. I never actually made one for myself just because I know I wouldn't stick to it. This year is different for me in a bunch of ways. I just got remarried and now my husband is leaving for a year with the military.So I decided that since my husband is going overseas and "claims" he's gonna go to the gym on his off time I would do the same.

I got a years membership at a local gym and I am going to workout 5 days a week until he gets home. I got a friend to join the gym with me so she is going to be my workout partner since her husband is leaving too. I am not looking to get all skinny mini but to get lean and healthy for myself. So wish me luck I start on Monday morning after I drop the kiddos off at school.

What's going on......

Okay, I know it was said before that I would try and write a blog everyday. I have been super busy trying to adjust to my new job and the time schedule. I work from 3pm-11pm Monday-Friday. Don't get me wrong I am not complaining at all! I love my job and enjoy working with the people there. I can't go into detail about my position due to a privacy matter. All you need to know is that I have a job and I work with great people.

Well I know in my previous blog I had mentioned my friends passing. I have been dealing with the loss as well as I possibly can and I think I am handling things very well. My mother is here visiting while my boyfriend is out of town. Two more weeks and he'll be home and my mom will be off to Arizona. School starts very soon and I haven't even begun to school shop for the kids. There is so much going on as usual and I can't wait til there is a time of normalcy.

I was doing a search on Myspace and found some friends that I consider my adopted family. I haven't talked to them in maybe 10 years. Either way it has been a very long time and if memory serves me right that's how it's always been. I remember when I first met them, I was 6 and we lived in the same apartment complex. Then in middle school is where we met again. Hannah was showing me pictures of a girl I reminded her of and who would have known it was me. Six years after the day we met. It's funny how things like that happen. We stayed friends through middle school and most of high school and then we grew apart.

Now almost 10 years later we found each other. Fate has a funny way of bringing people in and out of your life. I feel a lot better that I found a long lost friend after losing one. Life is confusing and can be very difficult but when you surround yourself with people you love and care about it helps the process run smoothly. There is nothing better in the world as of yet then to be reunited with people you care about.

I just hope that all the people that I've met over the years that have befriended me find me so we can catch up on the time spent away from each other. Let's reunite!

Addiction

I just got news from a friend I grew up with. She called to tell me that my best friend was found dead in a hotel room back home in Virginia. It is a big shock to me since we have always been so close and I just spoke to him maybe 2 weeks ago. He was doing good getting his life back together and was planning a trip to visit me and my kids. He was my daughters godfather and she is very upset he is gone. I knew he had a drug problem and knew he was trying to get better. But the addiction was too strong for him to battle it on his own. His family didn't help him as much as they could have. I know I tried so very hard to keep him clean over the years but the addiction won and I lost my best friend.So if you know someone with an addiction no matter how minor or major it might be encourage them to get help and be supportive of them. It will be a long and hard battle but to save a life is worth the time and pain.He was loved and will be missed. I love you Danny!

ER Hell

My brother got burned from a grease fire yesterday. I took him to the ER at the University Medical Center (UMC) here in Lafayette Louisiana. It only took 45 minutes for him to finish with the triage nurse and another 15 for them to take him into the acute care. I waited in the waiting room about an hour and the woman sitting across from me was obviously in pain and she asked me how long I've been waiting. I told her maybe an hour or so. She told me to get comfortable cause she had been there since 8am. She started telling me her symptoms. She had sharp pains in her stomach and near her right side of her lower back. A few minutes later she took off towards the restroom and didn't come back. I hope she got called since it was almost 5pm. This is amazing to me that 20 people or so here have been waiting here to be seen for at least 4 hours. It is a very sad day when people in need of medical attention have to suffer longer because they can't afford health insurance. What is the world coming to? I am so glad that I have insurance.

Christina Gimpel

I was thinking about a dear friend of mine that I lost at a very early age. I know I mentioned names would not be addressed but Christina Gimpel made such an impact on my life that I have to show how much I appreciate her. We were in the sixth grade together at C. Alton Lindsay Middle School in Hampton, Virginia. Christina sat down next to me in a over sized desk. She had fire red hair and was so tiny. Christina always had on a large wind breaker jacket that must have belonged to her dad since it was so big on her. She had the biggest smile and a very small voice that fit her size. But when she wanted to be heard you would hear her....lol.

She was the first person to talk to me and from there we became best friends. We walked to all of our classes together, sat next to each other at lunch and sometimes shared a locker. We had a friendship like most middle school girls did. Always talked about boys, music, clothes and what we had planned for the weekends. School went by so fast and it was already winter break. Christina got sick over winter break and missed a few days of school when it reopened. I asked her if there was anything wrong and she didn't want to tell me but I knew it was something big. So I told her that it's okay if she didn't want to tell me and she could when she was ready. She finally told me and made me promised I wouldn't say anything to anyone at school. I promised. Christina told me she had Cystic Fibrosis and that her doctor told her that it's not looking too good. Her symptoms gotten worse and the breathing therapy she did at home is only helping ease the discomfort.

When she returned to school the weather started to warm up and it got easier for her to breathe and it helped me from being the "Mother Bird". Since I knew she was sick and it was hard enough on her. I tried to make school bearable so I can see her and she could have a sense of an ordinary life without all the pain. Spring break was coming up and Christina and I made plans to hangout and spend Easter Sunday together at church.

Easter Sunday I got a phone call early in the morning. It was a girl in my class that Christina and I made plans with to meet at church. She called to tell me that Christina had passed away earlier that morning. I didn't believe her so I called her house and the line was busy. I hung up hoping she was trying to call me. I waited about twenty minutes and the phone rang. It was my best friend Danny. He called and told me he just got off the phone with Christina's mother and the rumor was true. I dropped the phone and started crying. My best friend died. She was so young and the best person I have ever met.

The funeral was so hard for me but I had to be strong for Christina's family and my classmates. The mother bird instinct kicked back in. I tried not to cry and hugged anyone who was crying telling them that it will be okay and that she is in a safer place now. Hoping that I was listening to myself and believed what I was saying. Christina's mother found me and gave me a tight hug and told me that I was a very good friend and that she was thankful Christina had someone like me in her life. The tears came rushing out and I almost fell to my knees.

Christina Gimpel was the very best friend that I ever had and I kept my promise! My son Christopher was named after you. Your life will never be forgotten and our friendship will be as strong at it was when we meet again. I love you and miss you so much!

Your friend always,
Angela Cherry

Love or Lust?

Have you ever loved somebody so much that it hurt? I have so many times in my short lived life. I know that love comes in many shapes and forms. But where is the line between love and lust? How do you decipher between the two? I was dating this guy and everything about him was bliss. His voice, his body and the way he held me. I fell fast and hard for him. But then we got closer and the problems started to surface and he disappeared without a call or even a letter. So as many break-ups I have experienced it just taught me to move on and forget about him. Then I started thinking about him and thinking about what I may have done.........

"Why is he doing this to me? I haven't talked to him in a few months then all of the sudden he wants to talk. He blew me off and then pops back up and wants to talk things over and see where things end up. I want to try so hard but I'm not sure if it's the right thing to do. There is so much going through my head I can't think straight. I want to be with him but I don't want to jump right back into the same old routine again. Same thing, different set of problems. He seems willing enough to make it work but I can't help to think that it will go back to him wanting me and then pushing me away. But I always think back to the happier moments spent with him. And this makes me want to try harder and then the bad comes rushing through and changes my mind. I don't know what I should do. Hopefully things will work it's self out."

After a few years I can finally look back on this and realize that everybody comes into your life for a reason. I realize that he was there in my life because I needed a new sense of direction in my love life. I always dated inside the same type of guy circle. Meaning tall, light brown hair, blue eyes, athletic and a jock your average military guy. This guy wasn't much taller then me, salt and pepper hair, hazel eyes, and a thick build. He was very out spoken and completely confident about everything. He taught me a great deal about myself and life in general. He is the reason I can love like it never hurt. He showed me that lust is a stronger emotion then love is and never settle for anything that seems too good to be true. Always listen to your gut feeling. But if you want a thrill and a wild sex life follow the lust and run from love....lol.

I just wanted to thank him for the lesson in life and for being that stepping stone in my life. I hope one day he would read this and agree that it was a chapter in our lives that we are thankful for and glad it was closed. I wish you all the happiness you deserve in life. Take care and thank you for being there in my time of need!

Your friend always,
Angela Cherry